Resilience Pathway #106: Be Who You Are

The following self acknowledgement was the outcome of a productive coaching session for me with my coach:

You can be who you are and get what you want.

This acknowledgement was powerful because it grew out of my realization that I was carrying around a self-limiting, self-imposed life rule about how I have to “be” in order to be successful. This came as something of a surprise, since I regularly work with my clients to search for their own self-limiting and self-imposed life rules. And prior to this particular session with my coach, I would have said that I was free from negative life rules of my own. Not!

The self-limiting, self-imposed life rule that I discovered through this coaching session was that I had to be like a pushy sales person in order to get all the clients I wanted in my coaching practice. That idea awakened lots of negative thoughts and energy about pushy sales people. Like most people, I disconnect with anyone who is trying to sell me something that I don’t want or need. So the last thing I wanted to be as a coach with sales responsibilities was a “pushy sales person.”

Without realizing it, I was pressuring myself to be this person and it was deflating me. Because of this life rule, I was not reaching my potential in sales-related situations. In fact, I felt enormous resistance toward sales-related activities most of the time. 

Once I revealed this life rule and released it, in essence operating in a way where I completely broke my rule, things really shifted for me. The sales part of being a coach became about building a relationship. It became light, easy, fun, and being exactly who I want to be and to get what I want. It anchored my leadership as a coach in my being as a person, and that has made all the difference.

Coaching Inquiries: In what life activities do you feel resistance? Could a self-limiting, self-imposed life rule be hiding there? What self-limiting, self-imposed life rules do you live by? What powerful acknowledgement can you give yourself right now? 

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH

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