As someone who hardly ever used to cry at all, it’s amazing to me how much I cry now. It happens multiple times a day. I don’t try to cry; it just happens. And, indeed, there is much to cry about in life. But I never used to notice those things in ways that made me cry. Now I do. And, as strange as this may sound, it feels good to cry. Read on to learn what I make of that and how weeping has become an essential part of my healing.
The body is, in many respects, just an extension of the brain. The brain likes to hear things, so it developed ears. It likes to taste things, so it developed taste buds concentrated on the upper surface of the tongue. It likes to smell things, so it developed a nose. It likes to touch and feel things, so it developed a body with skin that has a wide range of neural receptors.
Most of all, however, the brain likes to see things so it developed eyes. The eye-brain connection is the most immediate and, other than perhaps when we are sick with a runny nose ☺, the most wet connection of them all. Indeed, one even might describe the eyes as a form of brain tissue. They are the brain looking out at the world, to see what is going on. And what the brain sees generally directs traffic as to what we think, feel, and do.
As part of my recovery from the seizure disorder that started at the end of last August, I have done a lot of crying. Things that I might have missed before, I now notice; and things that I used to notice before, I now notice deeply. Both forms of noticing can cause my brain to weep, through those ever-peering eyes. I say every-peering because I wouldn’t be surprised, at this point, if I weep in my sleep. I just don’t remember.
One thing that has caused me to weep recently, appropriately enough, is the song, “Weeping”. It was written by Dan Heymann during the mid-1980’s when he was drafted, as an unwilling soldier, into the army of South Africa’s white-supremacist regime. Originally banned by the South African government, it has since been recorded and released at least 14 times and has become the South African National Anthem. If you have not heard it sung or seen Josh perform the song, I encourage you to do so. As a professional weeper, it makes me me weep every time.
To see the original video of “Weeping” (recorded by Bright Blue including video directed by Nic Hofmeyr), click here. You can even catch a glimpse of Nic himself, since he is the one playing the keyboards.
That original version of Weeping included a brief instrumental reference to “Nkosi Sikelel’ iAfrika”, the anthem of the African National Congress, which was banned by the government at the time; However, the official censors didn’t act, and the radio DJ’s had a field-day with the song, so Weeping spent two weeks at number one on the government radio-station.
To watch Joshn Groban’s famous version of the song, with the lyrics superimposed, by go to this YouTube link. Although, personally, I like the rendition Groban did on the David Letterman show, which you can also view this other YouTube Link.
In case you are not familiar with them, here are the lyrics:
Written by Dan Heymann
(Copyright Bright Blue)
I knew a man who lived in fear
It was huge, it was angry, it was drawing near
Behind his house, a secret place
Was the shadow of the demon he could never face
He built a wall of steel and flame
And men with guns, to keep it tame
Then standing back, he made it plain
That the nightmare would never ever rise again
But the fear and the fire and the guns remain
It doesn’t matter now
It’s over anyhow
He tells the world that it’s sleeping
But as the night came ’round
I heard its lonely sound
It wasn’t roaring, it was weeping
It wasn’t roaring, it was weeping
And then one day the neighbors came
They were curious to know about the smoke and flame
They stood around outside the wall
But of course there was nothing to be heard at all
“My friends,” he said, “We’ve reached our goal
The threat is under firm control
As long as peace and order reign
I’ll be damned if I can see a reason to explain
Why the fear and the fire and the guns remain”
Say ah, say ah, say ah – Say ah, say ah, say ah
Oh – Say ah, say ah, say ah – Say ah, say ah, say ah
Coaching Inquiries: What makes you weep? In what ways does your weep enhance the richness and fullness of life? How could life be more happy and life embracing for one and all? What is one small thing that you could do, right now, today, to make it so?
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Thank you. Your last Provision was exactly what I needed to hear today.
Your last Provision, Floating Back on Top, was so powerful! It was written with tremendous grace. Thank you so much. It moved me almost to tears.
This isn’t really a reader reply, but your Provisions and writing remind me of our time together in Chicago. It still sounds like you! I have very fond memories of our families taking our children to and having dinner at the soup kitchen during its first year or two. It really did have a feeling of being a community meal, not a relief operation. Thanks, so much, for continuing to bring your witness to the world.
May you be filled with goodness, peace, joy, and health.
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