Parenting Pathway #145: Stay At Home Blues

Are you a “stay-at-home” Mom or Dad? Then this Pathway may be for you.

  • Do you feel like everyone in your family has a life except for you?
  • Does your schedule revolve around everyone else in the family?
  • Do you often say to yourself, “I need something for me!”
  • Do you long for more out of life, but don’t know what “more” looks like or how to get it?
  • Do you feel lonely after your family members have gone off to work or school?
  • Are you so busy doing for the family, that you can’t remember the last time you did something for yourself?

If you answered “Yes” to even one of the questions above then you may have the “stay at home” Mom or Dad blues.

Assuming the awesome responsibility of becoming the primary parent via “staying at home” is both a dream and a goal for many parents, especially women, during the B.C. (before children) years. It’s a reality that many couples work hard to establish and maintain. Yet once the B.C. years come to an end, boredom, loneliness, and loss of identity, to name a few, can accompany all the joys that go along with being the primary parent staying home to raise the children.

Stay at home Moms or Dads have one of the most difficult jobs in the world; one that demands emotional, mental, and physical attention 24/7. Research shows the number of stay at home Moms, including those with a college education and successful career track is at an all time high. So what can you do about the stay at home blues? Your options are many!

  • Start with carving out “me” time. I know, you’re thinking, “I don’t have time in my day for that.” Create it, demand it, and begin today to fulfill it. “Me” time is time for you to rejuvenate, reflect, relax, unwind, explore your thoughts and feelings, care for your self, consider your future, your dreams, and your relationships. For “me” time to work, make yourself unavailable to family demands.
  • Imagine the greatest life for yourself. What does it look like? What are you doing more of and less of?
  • Remind yourself of your accomplishments, what you love about being the CEO of your household and being the primary parent to raise your children.
  • Proactively find ways to create more life balance and identify your values-the things that are most fulfilling for you. Establish boundaries and build support structures.
  • Partner with a Life Coach to custom create a plan of action that will turn your blues into rainbows of enrichment.

Coaching Inquiries: What could you do to take better care of yourself today? How could you nurture a positive attitude? Who could you find to support you along the way?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH

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