Coaching Kitchen #118 Creating Opportunities by Letting Go

I have been noticing that when I release my resistance I am more able to find my flow. When I let go of the reins or the struggle, a good course of action seems to unfold. That is a very fabulous piece of knowledge to have and to apply in one’s life.

Getting to this place of understanding took a number of years, from when I first heard the concept. But, with conscious awareness, practice, and watching what enfolds, I am getting the hang of releasing.

Being willing to let go is the hardest part for me in the process. I tended to stick with the struggle and build a story around why other options weren’t viable. The more options or ideas that other people shared with me, the more excuses or resistance I might exhibit. If I stayed in the story, then it was harder to see a path to a better place. A shift requires both willingness to let go and willingness to see what develops or what is possible.

This week, I unexpectedly ran into a few colleagues at an OSU football party. They are all people who see the glass as “half full,” so they are full of life and very willing to see the possibilities of shifts. The timing was good, because I needed some positive energy and some open thinking.

The next day, I met with one of them over lunch, before she flew out of town for several weeks. (It was a “carpe diem” situation.) She presented some new professional opportunities to me, to see what interest and ideas I had regarding them. I left the conversation feeling happy and energized. We•d had similar conversations in the past, but those times I was not allowing myself to let go and to have fun with being open to the possibilities.

What might have been a “tired” end to a challenging week in a new job turned out to be a free and possibility-filled Friday. It was the “shot in the arm” that I really needed after a busy week.

We•re invited to a neighbor’s pot-luck this weekend, and Terri asked us to bring any of the appetizers we served at the house concert we hosted last winter. I remember that the most popular dish was a cheesy chicken dip that my colleague, Namara, had shared with me.

Namara’s Chicken Dip • an easy crowd pleaser

1 cup shredded sharp cheddar cheese
1 brick of cream cheese (I use a lower fat version)
12 ounce can of canned chicken, shredded (you can find it by the canned tuna, usually)
4 ounces of Frank’s hot sauce
8 ounces of ranch dressing

Mix and spread into a greased baking dish. Bake at 350 degrees for 20 to 30 minutes, until hot and bubbly. Serve with veggies, crackers, or chips.

Coaching Inquiries: Are you aware of any struggles (large or small) in your life? Are they held in place with stories that you•ve created and are holding onto? Are you willing to give yourself some wiggle room and to relax your grip long enough to visit some other options and possibilities? See what ideas and paths flow your way. Be open to what shows up, sit with it, and hold it up to the light without being critical.

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Bob Tschannen-Moran, MCC, BCC
LifeTrek Coaching International
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