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What does it take for someone to really see you? To see who you are on the
inside? To see you for the creative, resourceful, and whole human being you are?
For someone to see who you are, as a person, can be very easy, quite a mystery,
or somewhere in between. Often it depends upon two factors: 1) how easily you
reveal yourself; and 2) how experienced that person is at the life skills that
will allow them to get to see who you really are. These life skills are often
described in terms of emotional intelligence.
Let me give you an example. To really see who I am takes a person who is good at two
essential life skills: empathy and curiosity. I'm a visual and
intuitive person who generally thinks and feels things in the form of pictures;
therefore, my communication style is reflective of these personality
characteristics. Gaining a deep understanding of who I am and what I'm saying
requires someone who can put themselves in my shoes -- empathy. Seeing me also requires
someone who can let go of their own thoughts, feelings, and judgments
about a particular topic long enough to be authentically curious in
asking me the questions needed to fully understand the "picture" I'm talking
about or the feeling I'm describing.
Think about the people in your life who see and understand you without trouble,
who notice you and never let you be invisible. You'll likely notice a pattern or similar
quality in these people, such as my noticing that it takes empathy and natural curiosity
in order to know me and draw me out. Once you identify the special qualities these people
possess, you will begin attracting more people to your life who have this quality or skill.
You will also discover ways to improve existing relationships where you have often invisible.
Being invisible can create feelings of frustration, confusion, distrust, and
anger, to name a few. On the other hand, being fully seen is like being a
brilliant and glorious hot air balloon, filled and lifting off to explore
and appreciate all that is visible.
Coaching Inquiries: How easily do you reveal yourself? For someone to know
you, what life skills must they apply? When are you invisible? What keeps you
from fully being seen? Who in your life really sees you?
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Pathway, use our Feedback Form. To learn more about partnering with a coach to enhance your own personal resilience, please Email Christina or use our Contact Form to arrange for a
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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Christina Lombardo Ray, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.
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