Provision #160: Am I Me?
I hope you've enjoyed reading
this 10-part series of LifeTrek Provisions as much as I've enjoyed writing them out
and receiving your replies. Next week I unveil a new series in a new format
with a new name. Thanks to all who contributed thoughts, reflections, and ideas
in the "Name that Newsletter" contest. You'll have to wait one more week to get
This series was designed to get
us thinking. It's been estimated that people average about 50,000 thoughts per
day, and that 95% of those thoughts are repeats from the day before. This
series was designed to stimulate a few new thoughts. Here's a quick recap of
each question, with a one-sentence summary of the accompanying LifeTrek Provision.
- "Am I Here?"• Am I fully present in the here and now, appreciating all it has to
offer, or is my mind a million miles away?
- "Am I Hungry?" Am I physically hungry, or am I eating
for some other reason • to meet or mask some other need?
- "Am I Happy?" Am I doing what I want to be doing with
energy rising, or am I stuck in a rut of unsatisfying activity with energy
- "Am I Healthy?" Am I in a state of physical, mental,
or social well being, or am I compromising the delicate balance of body,
mind, and spirit?
- "Am I Helpful?" Am I extending myself for the well
being of others, or am I thinking of and serving only myself?
- "Am I Honest?" Am I willing to suffer the
consequences of admitting and speaking the truth, or would I rather play
fast and loose with the truth?
- "Am I Holy?" Am I aware of the ever-present
witnessing awareness or am I oblivious to its steady, benevolent tug?
- "Am I Humorous?" Do I laugh, and cause others to
laugh, many times a day or am I too serious and responsible?
- "Am I Humble?" Do I gracefully flow through and with
life or do I demand that life treat me especially well, as though I were
up on a pedestal?
These questions can make for a
lifetime of meaningful pursuits, and they can all be contemplated through the
final question, "Am I Me?" This question, like "Am I Here?" seems obvious
enough. Who else would I be? How can I not be me?
For one thing, you can live
someone else's dream. That alien dream may have been planted a long time ago,
or it may have been recently given to you as an assignment at work. Whatever
the circumstances, if you are not aware and in pursuit of your own special
dream, then you may not really be you.
For another thing, you can
reject your own gifts. Each of us has a variety of aptitudes, interests,
intelligences, talents, and abilities. I like to think of those as having been
given to us by God. Too many people fail to acknowledge, develop, and use their
gifts • their true genius • on a regular basis. They do other things and then
wonder why they don't feel quite right. I would argue they're not really being
Finally, you can stifle your
creativity. I like the view of the human mind that sees it more as a receiver
than as a repository of knowledge. The eternal spirit speaks to and through
each of us; we need but the wisdom and the courage to tune in and listen. When
we do, amazing things happen. We become incredibly clear about who we are and
how we want to be. We become remarkably fulfilled and successful. I become the
"me" I was always meant to be.
Ask yourself the question, "Am
I Me?" If you're living your dreams, using your gifts, and expressing your
creativity then you can answer that question in the affirmative. If not, then
go back to the first nine "H" questions with their power to heal. Together they
will get you moving in the right direction.May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Bob Tschannen-Moran, MCC, BCC
President, LifeTrek Coaching International,
CEO & Co-Founder, Center for School Transformation,
Immediate Past President, International Association of Coaching,
Author, Evocative Coaching: Transforming Schools One Conversation at a Time,
Address: 121 Will Scarlet Lane, Williamsburg, VA 23185-5043
Phone: (757) 345-3452 •
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