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 Stillness….quiet….simply observing….watching every movement….every facial
expression…. the body language….taking in every sound….watching them
breathe….putting yourself in their shoes to experience their every movement and
feeling….clearing your mind from anything and everything except one of the most
important people in your life……your child.
How many times a day do you engage in this type of "being in the moment"
exercise when in the presence of your children? Most parents would say rarely if
ever. Many of us lead busy lives filled with "to do" lists and packed schedules
that would rarely permit time for an activity like "being in the moment."
Regardless of how busy you are, I encourage you to find a way to make it a
habit.
Fully "being in the moment" is one of the most difficult exercises for a parent,
but it is also one of the most fulfilling.
I take my children to gymnastic lessons on Thursday mornings and most of the
parents stay to "observe" the lesson. Many of the parents watching are
multi-tasking: reading a magazine, talking with a friend, answering their cell
phones, grading papers, etc. Even among those parents who are intently watching
their child, the majority are not fully present in the moment. Their minds are
filled with the places they need to go and the things they need to do that day.
Here is how "being in the moment" with your child can work for you:
- First reduce and/or eliminate any possibility for interruption (i.e. turn the
TV off, take the phone off of the hook, etc.).
- Then begin by paying close attention to your breathing. Fill your lungs, then
ring them out.
- Free your mind of everything except what your senses and intuition are
feeding you about your child at that very moment. Note: this is WORK!
- Gently guide your inner voice to only focus on your child.
- Mentally put yourself in your child's shoes and experience their every
movement.
- Sit back, relax, breathe, and simply intently watch the movements, body
language, facial expressions, interactions, and listen to their words and
sounds, etc.
- You'll know when you are fully in the moment because you will begin to feel
the moment in your own body.
I invite you to begin to be fully in the moment with your children everyday many
times a day this week. The reward is greatly fulfilling and you will begin to
get to know your child in ways you never dreamed possible!
Coaching Inquiries: How often am I in the moment with my children? What am I
missing out on by not being in the moment with my children? What is the gift for
me in being in the moment? How can I begin to make a habit of being in the
moment with my children?
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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Christina Lombardo Ray, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.
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