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 Checking Perceptions is the art of naming an emotion you perceive from someone
who is talking to you, then checking it out. It is not a common practice used by
our society. When someone speaks to us with love, fear, anger, or sadness in
their voice, we often take this in as part of the conversation but we fail to
take the courageous step of checking out our perceptions in order to sharpen our
listening and deepen the conversation.
For example, you're talking to someone who you perceive to be angry and
irritated. To check perceptions, you would first name this emotion. Ask
yourself, what do you perceive the emotion to be? Then ask the person you're
talking to if you are correct. So you might say, "Susan, my sense is that you're
really angry about this situation, is this true?" Susan can then proceed to tell
you if you are on or off track and further explain her perspective. The result
is that you took a step to really listen and understand what Susan is
experiencing and what she has to say. You invited Susan to further elaborate and
now she feels truly heard.
Checking perceptions is NOT about making a judgment or sarcasm. It is about
genuine curiosity and positively moving a conversation to a deeper more
productive level for both parties.
My challenge to you this week is to Check Perceptions using the two step
process, 1.) Name the emotion you're perceiving, 2.) Ask if you're correct in an
effort to effectively listen and deepen a conversation.
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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Christina Lombardo Ray, PCC, CPCC
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.
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