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Leadership Pathway #101: Spirituality in Leadership

Leaders are always at their strongest when they are aligned with their values. So too, an organization’s human resources are strongest when they have the opportunity to work within their values structures. It’s when we cross out of alignment that we can get into murky waters and can lose our footing, confidence, and strength. 

The first step in creating an aligned environment is allowing people to have a difference of opinion without feeling threatened or out of control. Inspiring people to perform is not about creating “yes” people who see it our way, but about creating space where folks can “add” to our thinking and our perspective. Fostering acceptance of many values allows for individual expression, and a greater likelihood of commitment to the organization, its goals and focus.

We each seek an organizational culture where we are comfortable bringing our “whole self” to work. It is hard to deny any part of our intelligence, passion, talent, or spirit. When part of this equation is missing, the prospect of reaching our full potential is severely hampered. Spiritual leadership acknowledges the parts of the whole, not only for self integrity but for the benefit of the individual and the organization.

Coaching Inquiries: Do you feel aligned with your values when at work? If not, what factors are contributing to the misalignment? Unhealthy politics? Questionable business practices? Pressure to “get on board” when you disagree with the company line? A culture that doesn’t value the same things you do? Consider the severity of the mismatch and what steps you can take to address it. Sometimes it’s best to move on if the gap is too wide to span.

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Kate Kriynovich (Kate@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #102: Tug of War

Do you often feel resistance at work? If so, you’re not alone. It was not uncommon for me to find employees who were in this position when I worked in corporate Human Resource departments. 

Corporate coaching required that I creatively seek out a balance between an organization’s needs and the wants and dreams of the people who work there. This was often a challenging and dynamic experience. So what is this resistance or “tug of war” about between organizations and employees? Often this game of tug of war is about values and aspirations. 

The resistance could be caused by one of your values being “stepped on” or not honored. For example, if your manager asks you to work late for the third night in a row, you might feel resistance, so ask yourself: “What is being stepped on here or not honored by me working late three nights in a row?” Your answer might be any number of things; perhaps you haven’t tucked your kids into bed for three nights in a row or you haven’t made it to the gym to exercise.

Whatever your answer, it could be that you’ve uncovered one of your values that is not present in your life due to the demands of the organization. A value is something in life that you find fulfilling and want more of. Family and exercise may be things that you value. What boundaries can you create that will help you to honor your values and lower this resistance at work?

The second most common cause of resistance in the workplace is aspiring to be something more within the organization (e.g., a manager, VP, etc.) and/or to have more or different responsibilities. An organization that is asking you to engage in work that does not align with your aspirations can be exhausting and short lived.

If you can see the connection from where you are today to where you want to go, then you’ll be more successful at this game. But if you are repeatedly denied a transfer or promotion that you’re longing for, the tug of war game will likely be no win for you. 

Coaching Inquiries: Take a look at your situation. Look at the relationship you have with the organization you work for today. What resistance do you feel? What is underneath that resistance? What change are you longing for? To have your values fully present in your life, what shifts need to occur? What boundaries do you already communicate that support your values and aspirations? 

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #103: Got Feedback?

When is the last time you asked for feedback? Think back to a time when someone said to you: “I’d like to give you some feedback.” What did you feel? If you felt concern or fear, you’re not alone. Many people associate the word “feedback” with something bad, negative, or news to come about something they didn’t do so well. 

What would it be like for you to consider feedback a gift? Honestly, it is likely not an everyday occurrence that we learn from another person ways we can improve ourselves. Feedback probably comes your way occasionally. Given that, find ways to embrace it.

Coaching involves working with clients to grow, learn, and develop from feedback; to really see it as a gift. To create goals and intentions around it. Most importantly, to ask for feedback. You can ask your manager, but you can also ask your customers, prospective clients, your spouse or life partner, your kids, your co-workers, your parents, your neighbors, your friends, and the list goes on. Opportunities for feedback are everywhere. 

You can also ask yourself for feedback. I find that with my clients, self-feedback is often limited to the highs and lows of life. The tendency is to explore what happened when we failed at something or when we succeeded. But how about the way we spend most of our days? The ongoing behaviors, thoughts and feelings we have, the words we choose. What feedback can you give yourself about these things? Are you operating in alignment with your values, with who you want to be? Do your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings support you or disengage you? 

What can you gain from this feedback exercise? The answer is an unveiling of who you are, how you operate, and how others perceive you. With that unveiling you can then determine the growth that awaits you. 

I challenge you to ask ten people in your life for some specific and balanced feedback this week. By balanced feedback, I mean the bitter and the sweet • both warm and cool feedback. Ask for total honesty: that is where you’ll find a true gift. Then ask yourself for honest feedback as well. From there, determine what you will do with this gift you’ve been given. 

Coaching Inquiries: What perspective do you carry about feedback? What growth awaits you? Who will you ask for feedback and how often? 

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #104: Finding Your Voice

I am a believer in listening to one’s own wisdom. And, I have found that one’s wisdom is made up of many experiences, discussions, and resources. Some of the most powerful wisdom that I have come across recently is the encouragement to find my own voice and be true to it. In other words, to discover and know what values I want to share with the world and to then have the courage to speak and live it confidently.

It does no one good to play “small,” to conform to others’ values or opinions, to remain silent, or to live an unexpressed life. This only leads to unhappiness, resentment, and fatigue. When we are not living the life we are capable of living, our chances of success and fulfillment are nil. It is only in the moments of true and sincere expression that we claim our greatness and share our gifts with those around us.

We are each here to share a message with the world. Your personal message may not seem profound or world-changing, but it can be powerful in your life and in the lives of those around you. We learn from each other, and we give each other courage to stretch and grow. It is often the simplest of messages that is the most poignant in supporting another on their journey.

Your life can be a powerful statement. It is all in the choices you make to share your true self with others. Decide what is important, and find ways to express it. Embrace your gifts, and others will, too.

Coaching Inquiries: What are your truths, your learnings, and your important messages? How might they serve others around you? Are you inspired to share them through discussion, mentoring, teaching, or writing? What idea is most compelling for you to share with others? How can you incorporate that into your life’s work?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Kate Kriynovich (Kate@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #105: A Space Mission

One of the easiest ways to attract something new that you really want in your life is to simply create the space for it. Do you want a new client? How about a new job or a new opportunity? Maybe you want a new and exciting romance. Regardless of what you want, it is time to clean out the clutter in your life. 

Over the past few months, I’ve been on a mission to create space in my life. This included my personal living space as well as my mental and emotional space. In your living space, do you have any closets, drawers, or cabinets that are so full that you can’t fit one more item inside? Well I did. My file cabinet was so full that I did not have room for one more coaching client file. So I got busy.

Anything that I did not access on a weekly basis, I removed from my cabinet. Much of the clutter I shredded. Any files that I needed to keep long term, I stored in a labeled box in our utility room. When I finished creating some space in my file cabinet, a really cool thing happened. I got two new coaching clients! I created the space for something I really wanted and I got it! 

With this I was energized to do more. I moved on to my bedroom, then the kitchen, my daughter’s rooms, the basement, the bathroom cabinets, all of our drawers, etc. I touched every area of our home clearing out any clutter in our lives. It felt so energizing to create this abundance of space. Also, it was a heart warming experience to give things that we once loved and adored, but were no longer using, to those in need.

Now it is no longer irritating for me to open a drawer or cabinet. I no longer have to struggle stuffing something inside or dig something out. Now, our closets, drawers, and cabinets open with ease, our things are organized, we easily find the things we’re looking for, and we’ve created space for many new things to come into our lives.

This space mission includes creating an open and inviting space where you can stretch out physically and mentally, breathe, grow, and wash away irritations. Clearing out the clutter frees up energy that you have attached to your belongings. When you free up this energy, you create an abundance of space for new opportunities and good things to come into you life. 

If some areas of your living space are cluttered, your mental and emotional space may be as well. Next week, I’ll discuss how you can begin to clean out your mental and emotional clutter to create even more space. 

Coaching Inquiries: Are you up for a “create the space” mission? What clutter hangs out in your life? What things do you have and don’t use that could really benefit those in need? How many new opportunities are waiting for available space so they can come into your life?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #106: What Are You Adding?

As a leader in your organization, community, school, church, temple, mosque, or family, what are you adding to the mix? Do you offer integrity? Enthusiasm? Emotional support? A keen mind? An inquisitive nature? Fun and a good sense of humor? We each have very special gifts to share with our colleagues. And, in the spirit of sharing these talents, we can truly add value to the group experience.

Do you focus on sharing your gifts daily? Do you try to behave in ways that complement the situation, and bring out the best in others? When you are on your “leadership game,” who are you being?

No two people will answer these questions alike. We bring different experiences, personalities, philosophies, and methods to the table. And if we can find ways to work together and appreciate these differences, we generally build strong diverse teams who respect and trust each other.

In contemplating the ways in which we add to a group, we begin to define the importance of our role. The group would not function as smoothly or effectively perhaps, were we not in the picture. We can then begin to develop a sense of self, a sense of strength and function as a team player and leader. By playing to your true self, you can expand your value and set yourself up for greater happiness and success.

And as the leader, don’t you want to open up opportunities for others in your life to expand their value and success, too? All it really takes is learning about the people on the team, their potential and their interests, and then finding ways to support them in unleashing all that talent. 

Coaching Inquiries: What leadership qualities do you admire in others? What qualities do others admire in you? How do you add value and build trust in different professional and personal circles? Do you show appreciation for other team members talents and contributions?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Kate Kriynovich (Kate@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #107: Clean Inner Space

Stop and listen. What are you telling yourself at this very moment?

What are you feeling at this very moment? How about at this moment? What are the thoughts and feelings that you’ve been carrying with you today’this week? It is so easy to become unaware and complacent in our habitual thoughts and feelings. The number one reason to clear out our mental and emotional clutter is that we become what we think and what we feel!

Last week, I wrote about creating space for new opportunities and things that you really want by clearing the clutter out of your physical life. Creating space also includes clearing your inner space of emotional and mental clutter.

Think back to a time when someone you love hurt your feelings and you carried the hurt around with you for a few days. Carrying this hurt created some emotional clutter for you. Now think back to a time when you had a great idea that popped into your head during a meeting, but you didn’t share it, you just couldn’t get the words out and then the time to do so passed you by. Guess what, you’re also giving yourself a gift of mental clutter by not freely sharing your thoughts and ideas. Lingering negative feelings, negative self-talk, ideas that get stuck inside, all of these things hold our attention and distract us from living fully.

What does your self talk sound like? Is it negative or positive? Do you hear the words “should,” “can’t,” “why,” or “need”? If so, it is likely that your self talk is negative. Negative self talk is mental unproductive clutter that has power behind it because it can create emotional clutter: feeling bad about yourself, self pity, withdrawal, pessimism, resentment, etc.

Bottom line, the more mental and emotional clutter we carry, the less mental and emotional space we have available to live a full and rich life. Creating an abundance of inviting space for new opportunities to come into your life requires you to be available to them physically, mentally, and emotionally. Clutter may blind you so much so that you don’t even notice a new opportunity when it arrives knocking on your door.

Again, you become what you think about and feel! Mark Matteson, author ofFreedom From Fear writes about a few ways that help me and my clients begin to clear mental and emotional clutter:

  • First, the good news is that you’re in charge of your thoughts and feelings. How long will you choose to think and feel a certain way? It is up to you.
  • Commit to your personal development plan and create life long live big goals. Think about them. How does it feel to envision them all coming true as a result of you investing thoughts and emotions in yourself?
  • Share your worries with a few people who love you and you’ll cut them in half. Write your concerns down on paper and you’ll see them get smaller.
  • Share you life goals with those you love and watch your goals blossom, build, and feel closer.

Coaching questions: How cluttered is your inner space? What does your clutter include? Check out your self-talk, where does it say you’re headed? What are your big, life-long goals? What does your personal development plan include?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #108: Live Like You Were Dying

I’ve been inspired lately by Tim McGraw’s song, “Live Like You Were Dying.” The song is about a man who has just found out from an x-ray that the end of his life could be very near. The song takes you through how this man began to live his life differently because of the news he’d received. The part of the song that I love the most goes like this: “And I loved deeper. And I spoke sweeter. And I gave forgiveness I’ve been denying. •And I watched an eagle as it was flying. Someday I hope you get the chance to live like you were dying.” 

What would you do differently with your life beginning right now if it were true for you that the end of your life was very near? Stop and make a list of all the things you want to be, do, and have. Be sure to include all of those things that you say, “I’ll do, be, or have that someday.” 

We too often wait for “someday” to come in order to do, have, and be the many things we want so dearly in life. Sadly, for many of us, “someday” never comes. For some of us, someday comes because we get a “wake up call”, like finding out that we only have so much time left to live. And it may be that at that time, what is important in our lives comes clearly into focus. Our values become clearly defined, and then we begin to have an intense motivation and energy to move into hyper drive toward completing and being all of the things on our “someday” list. 

But why wait for a wake up call? If you already “live like you were dying,” someday is everyday. Why not begin at this very moment to really live every moment of your life seeing tomorrow as a gift. Be who you really want to be, do the things you hold yourself back from, and allow yourself to have all the goodness in life that you deny yourself. Forgive, love, share, smile, notice, laugh, feel, plan, reflect, help, risk, and LIVE. 

Coaching Inquiries: How can you begin today to live like you were dying? What have you done with your life? What do you appreciate most about your life at this time? In your life, what things do you take for granted? What would it be like for you to really see tomorrow as a gift everyday?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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Leadership Pathway #109: Respecting Diverse Paths

A recent conversation reminded me how diversity of opinion can be both uncomfortable and productive. It can raise our ire and challenge our thinking. If we are open to its merit, it can cause us to pause long enough to examine our personal experience and to consider others’ realities and thoughts. Not a bad thing.

As this particular discussion about leadership style unfolded, it became evident to me that my individual style and approach were not a fit with this manager’s beliefs. His experiences have led him to value tough mindedness, confrontation, and a strong hand. He personally wants to be pushed and confronted, and believes he has grown from the tough mindedness shown him. I am sure that he has.

I know another manager who is all about building friendly relationships with her team members. She has developed an open door policy and a “let’s get to know each other” style. Her personality is very humorous and light-hearted, and I always feel a connection of camaraderie when I am around her.

I believe that I can grow from establishing an understanding of both of these styles. It is in seeking information about each others’ experiences that we come to a better sense of their perspectives. By appreciating where their unique paths have led them, we share a greater chance of opening ourselves to their individual strengths. And in resisting judgment, we also open our minds to finding common ground.

Coaching Inquiries: Do you look for things to appreciate in others? Do you enjoy getting to know people with backgrounds that are different than yours? Are you more likely to tune into the individual strengths of others, or to discount them because of divergent philosophies or styles? How can you open your mind and heart to greater acceptance of others?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Kate Kriynovich (Kate@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
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Leadership Pathway #110: Ask For What You Want

I love to inspire myself, my children, and my coaching clients to ask for what we want. I frequently hear myself saying:

  • “Don’t settle for anything less than what you really want.”
  • “If what you want seems unreasonable, find the courage to kindly ask anyway.”
  • “You’ll never know until you ask.”
  • “Always take care of yourself by asking for what’s in your heart.”

Many years ago, I received an incredible job offer for a full-time position to do the work I love in organizational and people development. The offer came as I was due to have a baby in three months. I really did not want to leave a life where I worked mostly from the comfort and convenience of my home and go to working 40-55 hours a week in an office. But how could I reject a great job, benefits, a very nice income, and all the learning I’d gain from this opportunity? I couldn’t and my heart did not want to. But I also did not want to be away full-time from my 2 year old or from my new born baby.

This job offer came from an organization that was light years away from valuing non-traditional work settings like telecommuting, job sharing, working from a home office, and flex-time. These things were so far from being part of this organization’s culture that it scared me to consider what I really wanted. What I really wanted was to be able to work from my home, job share where I’d only go into the office 2 or 3 days a week, and work a flexible schedule. I bounced my idea off of a few employees for this company and their immediate response was, “No way will the company go for that, especially not at that job level!”

That was all I needed to hear to pump me up to ask for something the company had never done before. Sure a whole lot was at risk. But I knew my heart did not want exactly what was being offered. So if I settled and accepted the offer, how long would I be happy? Would it really be worth all that I’d be sacrificing?

The company saw the benefits of being able to promote a family-friendly work environment and agreed to allow me to job share as long as I could recruit my “other half.” I worked a flexible schedule sometimes even from home. This arrangement worked well for me and this organization for about 20 months. Sure there were some hiccups, mostly because the culture and many of the associates were not familiar with this type of work arrangement.

But I got what I wanted because I asked for what I wanted. And one of the most rewarding things that came out of this experience was to see how my example inspired other people to ask their employers for the work arrangement they really wanted. You truly never know until you ask.

Coaching Inquiries: How often do you ask for what you really want? What are you sacrificing by not regularly asking for what you want? What do you really want that you’re not experiencing now?

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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.

Christina Lombardo, PCC, CPCC (Christina@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.

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