Career Pathway #176:
Ask For What You Want
Kate Kriynovich
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 Two weeks ago Christina wrote about the importance of asking
for what you want in a Leadership Pathway with the same title as this one
Click. She
wrote from her experience of asking for what she wanted in the context of a
large, corporate structure. Her request led to new leadership opportunities for
her within that organization.
So too when it comes to steering ourselves towards what we desire in our careers
or in any aspect our personal lives. Yet, that "asking" often becomes the
stumbling block or obstacle that stands in our way. We come up with rationales
that may or may not be founded, and we run those tracks through our brains,
convincing ourselves that we are not going to get what we want. Getting past
those insecurities can be a major hurdle.
Of course the first step is to realize that we are getting in our own way. And
the second is to stop playing those unproductive stories in our minds. Our minds
are also capable of building stories where getting what we want is possible. And
that is the thinking that will allow us to move ourselves forward in confidence.
Much of this boils down to facing what we think will be difficult conversations.
But again, convincing ourselves that the conversation will be an uphill battle
leads to our avoiding the conversation and /or undermining its success. And,
avoiding the conversation probably leads us to staying in the same situation we
are today.
Asking for what you want is a mature approach to life. It is a win-win for
everyone involved. Voicing the desire creates the opportunity for it to evolve.
Where "stuffing it" only creates dissatisfaction and resentment and begins to
undermine the relationships involved.
Challenge yourself to have at least one conversation this week to open up
dialogue by addressing something you are seeking in life -- fewer work hours,
more help with a project or heavy workload, financial assistance for education,
more input in your work environment or process, taking a sabbatical, time for
research or planning. You might surprise yourself as to how well the
conversation goes, if you believe in the possibilities and approach it with an
open mind and heart.
Coaching Inquiries: What do you want? Who do you need to discuss this with? Are
you willing to have that conversation? How can you frame it so that it is
positive for you and the other person? What preparation would be helpful to you
so that you can be confident and creative in opening up new possibilities?
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reply to this Pathway, use our Feedback Form. To learn more about how a LifeTrek
coach can support and guide you in your career development process, please
Email Kate
or use our Contact Form to schedule a complimentary coaching session that will help move you
forward.
May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Kate Kriynovich (Kate@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH
U.S.A.
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